Ben Dillaway | September 1st, 2010
Gold Coast Bulletin

Gold coast and Logan area Father of the Year Salvatore Barnaba with two of his five daughters (L-R) Nicole Barnaba 18 years and Stephanie Barnaba 16 years. Pic: Kate Czerny
A LOVE of shopping helped Sam Barnaba through the darkest days of his life and won him the Gold Coast Father of the Year award.
After wife Julie died three years ago, the 60-year-old was left to care for his two teenage daughters.
”I was a chef working late nights, seven-days-a-week and I knew my wife was there to carry on the goals we had set for our kids, then all of a sudden she was gone,” he said.
”I had to drop everything. I couldn’t work. I dedicated my whole life, 24 hours a day, to them.
”It was daunting at first but there are millions of other fathers out there doing the same thing.”
Mr Barnaba said shopping brought the trio together during tough times.
”It may sound silly but I think if you’re a father of girls you have to love to shop and I am a shop-aholic. I love shopping,” he said.
Stephanie, who nominated her Dad, said he helped both herself and her sister cope with their mum’s sudden death.
”He was and still is the driving force behind our recovery and progression through the loss … especially mine,” she said.
Stephanie said they were not as close to their Dad but have come to confide in him.
”He’s mum. We sit down and we gossip with him, he makes us hot chocolates and we sit there at night talking,” she said.
Along with shopping, the three also share a love for soccer.
”Steph and I both play soccer, so he’s always looking for that extra thing to make us better players and people,” said Nicole.
”I look at Dad and think if I was half the person he is I would be pretty satisfied.”
Mr Barnaba, who has three adult daughters from a previous marriage, said he was humbled by the award.
”It’s a tough job being a father and most should get an award,” he said.
”When you start a family you never think you’re going to be named Father of the Year. It is just something you do,” he said.
Mr Barnaba, who had his first daughter at 26, said the secret to being a good parent was getting your children to read, keeping them committed to something such as a sport or instrument, having discipline and love.
”You just have to love them to death. It doesn’t matter what they do, just love, love and love,” he said.
Mr Barnaba is one of seven regional winners across the state in the running for the Queensland Father of the Year, to be announced tomorrow at the Sanctuary Cove Hyatt Regency.
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